Sunday, 2 July 2017

Strength

We are all on a journey and are constantly being told that we are strong…. 
we probably don’t believe it.
We all regard strength as that physical force as in punching someone. 
We ignore the other meaning - the capacity of an object or substance to withstand great force or pressure.

We are that strength - 
We continue to speak to a counsellor every week - some travelling a long way.
We cry, we agonise,  we try to make sense of that thing that brings us to the haven of safety that is the Sue Lambert Trust.
We listen to the other voice in the room and try and make him or her understand.

BUT
We miss in our tears and our pain the one real fact.
We are able to speak to a counsellor and open our minds and hearts and yes, to cry like babies and to try different things and people and places.

BECAUSE
WE ARE STRONG.

One day we will see it and smile ……. and continue on the journey.

(SLT Client)

Monday, 19 June 2017

Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse

The Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse (IICSA) has launched a consultation on the impact of child sexual abuse on victims and survivors and access to and use of support services. 
The consultation is open to anyone who is a victim or survivor of child sexual abuse, and also to those who may wish to complete the survey on behalf of a victim/survivor. 
The consultation will examine a series of issues relating to victims’ and survivors’ experiences of support services. There are questions dealing with a range of issues connected to the impact of abuse and support service provision. We want to know more about experiences of the different types of support and the differences in the way they are experienced by children and adults.  
The confidential survey will be open until 12th September following this are report will be published. The easiest and quickest way to get in touch is by filling in the form here.


If you would like to see the list of questions included in the online form you can view these on our IICSA Victim and Survivor consultation document.

Saturday, 17 June 2017

Bitterness and anger a potent mix


Bitterness and anger arrowed in; a potent mix
It has taken years plus buckets full of tears to fix
Repressed anger becomes a poison to self
It had been put away on a distant shelf
Covered in dust poison circulated to harm
Twisting through body; leg and arm
Brain in a distant lonely fog
Life a struggle through a stinking bog

Wanting to believe that happiness may come
But forever it alludes and my race has almost run
An artist streak killed at a young age
Instead regret and a long and painful rage
To kick and punch to vent the pain

Of the lonely child seems in vain

Wednesday, 15 March 2017

Discover Your Voice and It Shall Be Heard

8 simple words seen on a piece of wood that spoke to me and grew.
A week later, the piece of wood was in my house and the words continued to grow.
Then days later, a new strength and the words came and I HAD discovered my voice - for the first time ever.
The best thing???   People did hear and ARE helping.

Its not easy…..  but it is helping….

(Sue Lambert Client)

Monday, 27 February 2017

This book is really great!


This little comic book is possibly the best thing I've read on trauma. It cuts to the chase and explains very simply how trauma works, the impact it has on people and how to deal with it. It takes about 30 minutes to read, cover to cover, and is the sort of thing you will want to share and to refer back to. If only all science could be explained this simply! See an extract and reviews on Amazon.


Wednesday, 26 October 2016

Tips for Friends and Family of Rape & Sexual Abuse Survivors


It can be hard to know what to do to help a friend or family member who has been raped or sexually assaulted. Here are some tips on what to do (and what not to do) and how to cope yourself. 

Read on>>

Monday, 10 October 2016

Client poem - Decor

Décor

I papered over chasms not cracks
This is why life had so many lacks
I live in a world with no colours except blacks
I
Play the game and hide my sorrow behind their backs
I shelve it on empty cold racks
Sometimes the emotion and pain drips to the floor

Then I have to retreat and struggle to close the door

from C.

Tuesday, 16 August 2016

Counsellor's poem

The Counselling Chair

A worried mind, a head full of fears,
How should I be? Do I hold back the tears?
This person unknown, hearing my woes
What do I say? How much to disclose?

She sits just in front in a chair of her own,
Her voice welcomes me with a gentle tone
A caring concern for whatever I share,
I start to feel safe as I sit in my chair

My voice starts to quiver as my first words are spoken,
My thoughts seem to scream, PLEASE FIX ME I’M BROKEN!
She listens intently, doesn’t judge what’s discussed,
Finally someone I feel I can trust

We meet again and more frequently,
I start to feel different, more open and free
She seems to understand things from my point of view,
She knows what it’s like to be in my shoes

Wednesday, 27 July 2016

Released

I wrote this poem the day after I found out my abuser had been found guilty. It details my experience of Court, and then the huge change in emotions when I received the call. I wasn't quite as "released" as I thought I was; I underestimated the effect the abuse and the trauma that going to court itself would bring. However, that real, honest, raw feeling of pure...escape...was so strong I can feel it clearly even now. 


Josée (Client)

Released

Walking up steps
Heart pounds
The dreaded day finally approaches


Sat in room, waiting
Pulse races
Reading those papers for the first time in years

Tuesday, 19 July 2016

Self-help tips

Click to view
Lots of tips here for dealing with flashbacks and trauma and helping to stay grounded and relaxed.

Thursday, 30 June 2016

Broken Innocence

The sacrilege of broken innocence we try to hold in
But that is the last place the healing can begin
To open our troubled minds and speak of life’s taboo
Children of the future must never go through.

By Christina

Monday, 20 June 2016

The Sue Lambert Trust - a poem


The Sue Lambert Trust has given me hope,
That one day I will understand "why" and be able to cope,
For forty years I have lived in fear,
Frightened a scared to even shed a tear,

Thursday, 16 June 2016

What can friends and family members do to support survivors of sexual abuse?

Knowing that someone you care about has been hurt may leave you feeling overwhelmed. Often both survivors and their supporters struggle with feeling helpless and angry in the aftermath, and it can take some time to learn how to respond.