Thursday, 8 December 2016
Wednesday, 26 October 2016
It can be hard to know what to do to help a friend or family member who has been raped or sexually assaulted. Here are some tips on what to do (and what not to do) and how to cope yourself.
Monday, 10 October 2016
I papered over chasms not cracks
This is why life had so many lacks
I live in a world with no colours except blacks
Play the game and hide my sorrow behind their backs
I shelve it on empty cold racks
Sometimes the emotion and pain drips to the floor
Then I have to retreat and struggle to close the door
Tuesday, 16 August 2016
The Counselling Chair
A worried mind, a head full of fears,
How should I be? Do I hold back the tears?
This person unknown, hearing my woes
What do I say? How much to disclose?
She sits just in front in a chair of her own,
Her voice welcomes me with a gentle tone
A caring concern for whatever I share,
I start to feel safe as I sit in my chair
My voice starts to quiver as my first words are spoken,
My thoughts seem to scream, PLEASE FIX ME I’M BROKEN!
She listens intently, doesn’t judge what’s discussed,
Finally someone I feel I can trust
We meet again and more frequently,
I start to feel different, more open and free
She seems to understand things from my point of view,
She knows what it’s like to be in my shoes
Wednesday, 27 July 2016
I wrote this poem the day after I found out my abuser had been found guilty.
It details my experience of Court, and then the huge change in emotions when I
received the call. I wasn't quite as "released" as I thought I was; I underestimated the
effect the abuse and the trauma that
going to court itself would bring. However, that real, honest, raw feeling of pure...escape...was so strong I can
feel it clearly even now.
Walking up steps
The dreaded day finally approaches
Sat in room, waiting
Reading those papers for the first time in years
Tuesday, 19 July 2016
Thursday, 30 June 2016
Monday, 20 June 2016
Thursday, 16 June 2016
Knowing that someone you care about has been hurt may leave you feeling overwhelmed. Often both survivors and their supporters struggle with feeling helpless and angry in the aftermath, and it can take some time to learn how to respond.
Say to yourself: "I am having a flashback". Flashbacks take us into a timeless part of the psyche that feels as helpless, hopeless and surrounded by danger as we were in childhood. The feelings and sensations you are experiencing are past memories that cannot hurt you now.
by Pete Walker click for more...
Tuesday, 12 April 2016
One of our clients is a prolific writer of poems. This is her way of empowering and expressing herself. She has kindly offered to share one of her poems here.
The Journey Begins
Today my journey will begin
A journey I hope that I can win
For forty years I have lived in fear
Frightened and scared to even shed a tear.